CULTURE

How Covid-19 has revealed the worst hierarchy of them all.

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As I approach the year anniversary of my former life, I’m taking stock on the toll Covid has taken on my relationship landscape. It has been quite a year. Major fault lines erupted in core relationships. Some have been strengthened, some have disappeared. Most of us have learned to live with less; less touch, less love, less security. Fear and anxiety took up residency in places it passed through easily before, and the Love Hierarchy that began to emerge in my inner circle at the beginning of this pandemic became a full blown family crisis only a few months later.


RELATIONSHIPS

Avoid these at all cost.

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Our species is steeped in a Transactional Love Culture. In this reality love has become a commodity to be procured and hoarded. Instead of being the abundant and infinite source that it is, it has become a precious and valued commodity to be doled out to our finite and conditional hearts. It has been tightly interwoven with our sense of self worth, so much so that we abdicate our ability to experience love to only one person that will deliver it to us for eternity, reinforcing our very worthiness (or lack of) in receiving it.

It is no surprise that…


RELATIONSHIPS

Leaving is hard to do, but it can be done well.

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“He took care of everything Katie. You don’t need to do anything but sign some paper.”

My dad’s best friend was an attorney and had helped him get everything sorted out before he died. It was his last act of taking care of me. He knew that I would be in no condition to think through complex issues and make big decisions. He knew I would need all my resources to manage the intensity of the emotions quietly consuming me. Such is the experience of receiving a “good” goodbye…


Politics

It took an entire country and decades of abdication to make this mess.

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Today, I’ve read many politicians, pundits and regular humans saying this insurrection is the responsibility of Donald Trump. I call a very loud ‘BULLSHIT!’

It is the responsibility of every American citizen that has supported Mr. Trump’s rise to power.

All of those who have supported gerrymandering districts across the country since the 1990’s so Republicans could hold onto power and make the voter’s check to power weaker.

All of those who have voted down ballot Republican over the last decade empowering state legislatures across the country…


SPIRITUALITY

We’re old friends now.

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Darkness… my beloved friend. Most, if not all things, begin their life in darkness; seeds, humans, mushroom, animals and on. My life often chooses to be reborn within and along side Darkness. The great tragedy is not that Darkness comes, it is that we are never taught how to make it our friend. How to welcome it, honor it and even nurture it.

I think of Darkness now as a soul friend, my Anam Cara, that shows up at my house every once and a while for a visit. When she comes I drop everything for…


Poetry

A poem by Valentine Martin

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I mourn all of the things left unsaid between us.

Lost in the brevity and distance of letters scratched out on digital sand.

Held hostage by past wounds that are unwilling to release you to my arms.

What is lost in the shipwrecks of your past, scattered on this beach?

Trapping you in the fear of another catastrophic ending.

What wonders of the cool deep are you missing by lying in this shallow water, baking in the sun?

Alone.

I am hot and thirsty.

My smooth body longing to pass through the cool patch of water that is your deepest…


Relationships

Construct it with a ‘Free Heart’ and you can be.

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I have been officially single for three years (four if you count the period where I was separated but not divorced). For the most part I have really enjoyed it. There is no denying the ease of centering your life solely around yourself. Things like getting a solid night’s sleep, going out to eat where you want all the time, hanging with your friends whenever the fancy strikes and not HAVING to be emotionally present for anyone else, all have a real upside. …


Politics

What the numbers tell us about who we are.

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My curated feeds have been awash in post after post focused on the 68 million Americans that voted for Trump as a barometer of our collective moral code and the determination of our truest national heart. Yet 72 million Americans have voted for Biden; voted for a change, voted for a rebuke of hatred, incompetence and corruption. 72 million Americans voted for one another. Those 72 million Americans are also the most diverse coalition in our history.

Not to mention that Dems have won the popular vote in the last 7 out of 8 elections. The majority of Americans wanted…


Keeping your life special in a social media world.

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How long should one wait before they tell their family or friends they are seriously invested in a relationship? What about when to first put that picture of you with that person on social media? How about that intimate moment between your kids that you caught on your camera phone or the photo of your parents hugging in the front yard when they thought they were alone? What about your own body? Should the world get to see the curves of your breast or your fingers just inside the band of your underwear? …


It’s time for women to reclaim their ancestral power and stop asking others for permission to control their bodies.

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The text spread through my phone like wildfire. One after the other… “RBG is gone.” I’ll admit I’m not an aficionado of text speak so I stared at RGB. What is RBG? Then it hit… Ruth Bader Ginsburg. That’s when everyone on the thread started responding in horror. Their fear was palatable, and it wasn’t just women. …

Kathryn Dickel

Writing on Spirituality, Relationships, Culture. Founding Editor of Pollinate Magazine. Twitter @Kathryn Dickel @PollinatePub IG/FB: @pollinateritual

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