Pollinate Magazine, Special Series, October 2022 — What does it mean to forgive? The answer to that question seems as elusive as the question: What does it mean to love? Where there can be no doubt, however, is that love and forgiveness dance together. …

Pollinate Magazine Special Series, September 2022 — I’m madly in love. Every time I’m with my love I feel at home. I learn something new. I feel deeply supported. We share a special place where we ‘commune’ every time we are together. I am completely myself with them. They have seen me cry so hard I was…

Daydreaming the power of a world without money. — I have been kicking around a radical idea for the last several months. I know it’s radical because every time I talk about it whoever is on the receiving end of the conversation says something like, “Wait, what? What are you saying? That’s crazy. It will never happen.” My radical…

Pollinate Magazine Special Series, August 2022 — My Vesper vibrator arrived in the mail a few days ago and I giggled with delight. I couldn’t wait to wear it out in public. Most people will look at it and think I have an elegant piece of jewelry on. For those who know, they will understand I’m ballsy…

Pollinate Magazine Special Series, July 2022 — “We’re living inside of imaginations that other people told us were true and told us were like– ‘this is how the world is’. And I always uplift my friend Terry Marshall because he was the first person to say this to me, that we’re in an imagination battle . …

Red flags for sovereign (aka single) women in the poly world. — In the last few years I have found myself in the middle of a few really fucked up relationships. Mind you, I didn’t seek out these experiences. Actually, it was quite the opposite. Those couples, in various ways, came looking for me. Whether it was the attempt at the traditional…

Normalizing unhealthy male trauma response is not only unattractive, it’s dangerous. — Him: ‘In all fairness, I should let you know I’m an Asshole,’ said like he was competing in an Olympic sport. Me: (here we go again, a pleasant smile on my face). ‘Yah, tell me about that.’ This conversation is sadly not a singular occurrence in my life. I’ve sat…

Harnessing the powerful magic of the letter. — When I reached for my phone and opened the notes app the words were sprouting like poppies in my mind. “Dearest Jack . . .” So was my deep relief. The words let me know that the grief of letting this man go wasn’t going to pull me so far…