Red flags for sovereign (aka single) women in the poly world. — In the last few years I have found myself in the middle of a few really fucked up relationships. Mind you, I didn’t seek out these experiences. Actually, it was quite the opposite. Those couples, in various ways, came looking for me. Whether it was the attempt at the traditional…

Normalizing unhealthy male trauma response is not only unattractive, it’s dangerous. — Him: ‘In all fairness, I should let you know I’m an Asshole,’ said like he was competing in an Olympic sport. Me: (here we go again, a pleasant smile on my face). ‘Yah, tell me about that.’ This conversation is sadly not a singular occurrence in my life. I’ve sat…

Harnessing the powerful magic of the letter. — When I reached for my phone and opened the notes app the words were sprouting like poppies in my mind. “Dearest Jack . . .” So was my deep relief. The words let me know that the grief of letting this man go wasn’t going to pull me so far…

Pollinate Sunday Sermon, 6.12.22 — Blessed Sunday my friends. It’s good to find you here again. I hope you are well and held in the tight arms of a loving community. I have been away from the Sunday Sermon as I’d been immersed in the facilitation of the Spring Pollinate Women’s Weekend. We do two…

Pollinate Magazine Special Series, June 2022 — At every Pollinate Women’s Weekend we hold the Five Fires Ritual. It consists of a procession through a trail of five fires. At each fire, a woman offers her witness for others. It is an act of ultimate vulnerability for the speaker and of deep receiving for the women who…